One thing I’ve really learned over the past few years is emotional intelligence. I learned the very most the year that I happily worked with a life coach for further insight, understanding, and growth. To me, having emotional intelligence means having the ability to read the room, manage your emotions, and understand the energy around you. But something I realized just today is that loudness or the ability to speak your mind doesn’t necessarily mean maturity or emotional intelligence.
It’s easy to think that being confident or outspoken is a sign of growth. After all, speaking up for yourself is important, right? But emotional intelligence is something deeper. It’s about having control over your own emotions, not just unleashing them. It’s about being self-aware enough to know how your words and actions impact the people around you. And it’s about empathy.. understanding where others are coming from without feeling the need to dominate the conversation or be the loudest voice in the room.
Honestly, I’ve seen a lot of people mistake being assertive for being emotionally intelligent. And yeah, there’s a place for speaking up. But true emotional maturity comes when you can listen just as well as you speak. It’s about knowing when to say something, and sometimes, knowing when to stay quiet because silence can speak louder than words.
It’s something I’m working on constantly, but this self-awareness has brought me a lot of peace. Emotional intelligence isn’t just about saying what’s on your mind.. it’s about managing what’s going on inside and showing up with intention. It’s about the small, quiet decisions that help you stay grounded, no matter what’s going on around you.
Christina
The Transformation Station 